A big HUGE thanks to those of you who “missed” my blog last Friday! It’s inspiring to hear from you and know that you look forward to my Friday morning posts. “Whitty”, “clever” and “informational” are some of the words you used to describe my writings and for that I say “Thank You!”
I actually have a small confession to make. I did not post my blog last Friday because I had a “Mommy Shutdown”. I guess all this government shutdown, debt ceiling, politico mumbo-jumbo (not to mention pure exhaustion!) got the best of me! Actually, what it did, was it really got me thinking… “what would our world look like if all the moms said “to “H” with this, I’m shutting down!”. What would happen? Crazytown, right?!
No breakfast, no rides to school, no laundry, dishes or grocery shopping. No packed lunches. No tiddying-up the house after the morning cyclone swirls out the door. An overflowing mailbox, bills left unattended, no driving to sports and/or after school activities. No dinner. No job if you decide to not show up. You get the idea… the list doesn’t stop growing, and the dishes in the sink don’t stop piling up!
For a short 24 hours, my family and home experienced a “Mommy Shutdown” and while I’m happy to report that Saturday morning I felt a bit more appreciated, things were in complete disarray! I always feel needed (sadly! LOL), I always feel loved (thankfully!), but as a Mom, I’d be lying if I said I always felt appreciated. I get it… sometimes we need to draw a line in the sand, take a stand, but I’m here to tell you a shutdown is not the answer!
There are a lot of funny stories that can be shared circling around this topic AND a lot of very sad ones! My positive confirmation in this experiment was a reassurance of what I already know… no matter how much you want to throw in the towel, regardless of how much you feel unappreciated or overwhelmed or exhausted, you can’t just bail on the people that rely on you. It’s not a good idea (in most cases, anyway) to walk away from those that you love and care for just because you’re stressed-out or not getting your way. The responsibilities that come with being a wife and a mother are clearly very serious. To “shutdown” is not appropriate! We have to communicate. If we need a break we should arrange one, if something isn’t working, talk about it and fix it. A responsible pause in the action, yes! A shutdown, no! Shutdown = Letdown.
And let’s not forget about the message we send to the future leaders of our planet when we “shutdown”. It kinda says “if you don’t get your way, it’s ok to walk away without compromise”. Yes, time heals everything (thats the age old saying anyway) but think about all the extra work, problems and resentment that pile up after you walk away but before you make your way back to the table! Senseless, silly and juvenille are a few words that come to mind (along with a few others!).
In closing, I believe that we, both as parents and as citizens, can learn from these situations… even ones that seemingly made no sense at all. I’d love to hear what you have learned from the state of our union what conversations you and your family/friends have had sourrounding this topic.
Until next time…
Much love, Renee