It’s hard to believe the beginning of the school year is right around the corner. With that in mind, I hope to get you thinking about ways you can better prepare your kids for the transition back to life in the classroom.
This week we continue to focus on Intent vs. Impact. This concept is so important and can’t be stressed enough when it comes to good, effective communication… with our children, our family members, our friends, even strangers!
When our words are heard to mean something other than what we’ve intended that is a problem. When we’ve hurt someone, whether we meant to or not, what matters is how we repair the situation. Last week we identified some steps that can be taken towards accepting responsibility for the impact of our words to make things right.
Now, let’s think about getting to the point where we think about impact first. At what point does the “intent” conversation stop mattering? After all, what does the intent of our actions really matter if our actions have an impact other than what was intended?
Please share your thoughts so we can continue the conversation. Let us know how you’ve been able to communicate more effectively and avoid misunderstandings by focusing on the impact of your words.
“What one does is what counts. Not what one had the intention of doing.”
~ Pablo Picasso ~
I introduced you to the “My World Friends Pledge” last month. This is a great way for your kids to start off the New Year. You can find the Pledge at myworldmedia.net. Imagine how different our world would be if everyone lived by the Pledge! Over the coming weeks, we’ll be breaking down the pledge line-by-line and talking about ways to weave these topics into conversation with your children.
On that note, let’s start at the top with “I will Celebrate Differences”. That’s another way of saying “I will be tolerant and kind to those that are different than me”. What a great thing to talk to your kids about! Here are a few questions that you might ask your kids:
What does Celebrating Differences mean to you?
Do you have friends that are different than you?
In what ways are some of your friends different than you?
Do you think that it’s good when people are different?
What are the differences in your friends or classmates that you notice the most (ie. glasses, braces, skin color, eye color, etc.)?
What are some reasons you’re happy that we’re not all exactly the same?
It’s simple to weave this topic into conversation about everyday life, and when you have regular, on-going and open dialogue with your children they will know that the door is always open for a chat. If something is bothering them, something is going on at school, peer-pressure or a dispute with a friend, or they recognize behavior in a friend that is not appropriate, they will feel like it’s natural to talk you about these things. How important is that?! As parents we all want our kids to know that we’re here for them and we will listen and help when help is required. Sometimes just being a good listener is really all they need. When your children confide in you and trust that you will listen without judgment or reaction, it will change the level of your conversations with them.
So, talk-it-out! And then share how your conversation of Celebrating Differences went. We can’t wait to hear from you!
I am admittedly not a TV watcher… if it’s not sports related, I’m pretty clueless. However, I did happen to see a General Mills, Cheerios commercial back in May that made me smile. At the time, I didn’t think of it as controversial, but sadly, that’s what it has become! Perhaps some of you saw it? Continue reading →
Who inspires you? In today’s technologically advanced world, it’s easy to “follow” people that you like and admire. When I look at the long list of people that interest and intrigue me, it’s clear that there’s a common thread… they all inspire me! Continue reading →
I mentioned in a prior blog that I have a new book coming out. The book is called “Who Do I Look Like?” and it’s about my Chinese character, May. She was adopted from China and doesn’t look like anyone else in her family. This has created a bit of an identity crisis for May. Continue reading →
I was reading a book review this morning (done by my favorite anonymous reviewer!) and it got on the topic of Perseverance. I quote:
Perseverance n. Adherence to a course of action, belief or purpose without giving way; steadfastness. That’s a good trait to have. I think it’s pretty rare though and getting even more so these days because things are just easier to come by—information is right at our fingertips all the time. Continue reading →
The other day I was talking to a friend about her 3 year old son, Thomas. She was sharing with me how much he loves his “Family Tree” book. 3 or 4 times throughout the day he’ll go pick it up, sit down and “read” out loud to anyone who will listen… usually Elmo, Big Bird and the Cookie Monster Continue reading →